Thanks for your love, for reading and for your understanding. Went back to turn on his social media accounts and added me back, even tried to call mo skype but i hung up cause i still can’t do it after what he did (though i accepted him on facebook. Fast forward to now – She’s dating, enjoying herself and not checking her ex’s social media every hour, or even every day for that matter. . She stoped seeing me because she said I talk to too many girls and a bunch of petty wall post on my facebook from girls i know from college but dont ever see and live all around the state. Today is the day I noticed the guy I was seeing a few weeks ago unfollow me. LIVING WITH A BROKEN HEART: HOW TO GET OVER A BREAKUP, AM I A BAD PERSON? After a break-up, people will remove all traces of their ex from their Facebook profile, deleting photos and wallposts. You won because if he wasn’t thinking of and affected by you on some level, he wouldn’t have to unfollow. I’m so happy that the post helped! Keep coming back here to the blog. I’ve just read this, and I have the opposite issue. Thanks for your advice in advance. My ex girlfriend and I had a bad breakup in which I kept constantly calling her and begging her to take me back and got into a bit of drama with her best friend who I never met the whole year of mine and my ex relationship. It could be that he feels annoyed by your chains of … I will definitely try to write a post on this soon! Anyway, a day after I had a long talk with him about what I wanted us both to work on, including his communication, he goes out with friends and doesn’t tell me. Xxxx, Question.. Me again…………Everyone I talk to says to “unfriend and unfollow” my ex on Facebook. Is it when he posts something? When saying our goodbyes he teared up quite a bit and left in a hurry so i wouldn’t see. But he said he was not ready to talk. Someone once told me that we need to hold on to whatever love and affection we get, no matter if it isn't the kind we think we want. I mean.. he is not following me but i continue to follow him… doesnt it look like i cant let go? Recently, he deleted a picture of us on his Instagram, but kept another one there. because I ruminate on the thought of what I did, why I wasn’t good enough, did our time dating actually mean anything to her, was I used as a rebound from her ex? OMG! Thank you for your love, for reading, and for your understanding. Reply Link. A good month ago I started posting stories on facebook: he watched almost every single one of them – and then yesterday I’ve seen that he’s unfriended me. Him acting like he’s being “respectful,” is an attempt to convince himself and others that he has changed, is capable of respect, and isn’t the guy that you (and I am sure others) know he is. Should I block my ex if I don’t want him back? I’m going through something similar as well. Although this is very hard for me, I want to understand why he hasn’t unfollowed me? None. I hope that I was able to help a little and thanks so much for reading xoxoxoxo, Hi Natasha This is the second time I’m reading this and this time I just decided to tell you my story. He deleted only our pictures on instagram and I got so hurt that I sent him a hurt and angry message. why would ex girlfriend block me and unfriend me on facebook ? Thank you for being a part of this tribe. I’m so happy to have helped You are loved, supported, believed in and never, ever alone. WHEN YOUR EX DELETES YOU FROM SOCIAL MEDIA. If he can do something, I can do it better. This was exactly what I needed to hear. So it really puzzles me why he decided to unfriend me and why after so many years! So I decide to go to my friends list and unfriend him. And he was the one who did the breaking up! Thanks for your love, for reading and for your understanding. Honestly”. Don’t think he did it just to hurt you. I wish that I could help, but I have too much to say to type it all out, not enough info and not enough hands to type or time in the day. Why did she unfriend me and why would she unfriend and not just block? This isn’t about you. I haven’t spoken to him in almost two months. maybe I’m different, but I messaged my BF and explained why I unfriended him in a nice way.that ibwasnt unfriending him in real life, but seeing his pics was painful to me… So I was thinking he was still stalking me. You deserve so much more xoxo. It has been around 2 months NC now, and she unfriended me a few days after NC. You’re worried about how it will look to everyone on the outside and truthfully, it’s the last little connection that you have to him and if we’re going to get really real here, you want to see what he’s up to. So I stayed away from him. So, to me this unfriending seems like he’s pulling my strings n did this to try to get a reaction out of me because he was annoyed by me ignoring him. I cant help but feel like our relationship never mattered and he has already moved on. If he had proven through his actions that he wasn’t toxic and had treated you well in the relationship, yes. And then later that day he posts about hating love. I know I’m not alone in this. He tells me we would meet up when he got back the next week. Thx you for the love and for taking the time to share XOXO. Its going to be a long road but already i feel happier, so thank you xxx. He broke my heart in pieces. Natasha Adamo, LLC. Get Natasha’s 7 life-changing & Essential Boundaries straight to your inbox.Sign up to receive exclusive content, updates + more. So, after a few days/weeks/months following the breakup, he unfollows you. Remain on your white horse and know that you are not alone – ever. We dated for about 3 months but things moved VERY fast, I guess that should have been a red flag (also everything was about him, all of his exes it was their fault never his, and he truly never tried to really get to know me…clearly I didn’t want to take off my rose colored glasses…) He dictated the relationship and seemed to always want me around and things seemed really good (despite said glasses on)… I practically moved in with him and we were domestic AF… One day we got into a silly argument and he said he wanted solo time for the night, but then I didn’t hear from him for almost 2 days, when I finally confronted him he was cold and short and tried to make me feel guilty for having a human reaction to someone not speaking to them for 2 days..long story short- he said he cared but wasn’t ready for a relationship and didn’t want to lead me on (despite the fact that nothing about the 3 mo we were together was casual and we were pretty much inseparable). I wouldn’t have (we are supposed to be more mature, right? Now anyone that knows me will say that is unheard of and honestly up until this point thought impossible myself. My ex and i broke up a couple of weeks ago. Don’t allow it. How many chances are there to come back? I just continued to live my life normally even if it hurts me much since we’ve been on and off for 5yrs. Maybe I am the immature jerk here. He of course replied that it was because he is dating someone and out of respect for her , had to remove the pictures. Especially this paragraph “yanking your chain” , that’s exactly what just happened to me. Too bad I unfollowed him immediately when I saw he unfollowed me on Instagram :/ Should have read this first.. Last year, this particular ex (who she thought she was going to marry), had lied to her, cheated on her and completely broken her heart. xx. My ex of three years broke up with me completely unexpectedly after I caught him messaging a girl (claimed nothing really happened). I put this question first because it’s truly important to spend time exploring what it … I feel very guilty right now bc his condition isn’t well he’s a 53 year old man that I had no idea this was his other side it’s an awful side I have never encountered in my life . Found out that my aunt had blocked me when I tried to send her a birthday greeting on fb. You’re not alone xxxxxx. Why would he go through the trouble of blocking me when we never were friends on social media since the break up? You want to win, you want to be chosen and you may be a bit of a people pleaser too. I do offer one-on-one coaching if you’re interested and would be happy to help further ? We have known each other for 5 years and dated for almost 2, so I didn’t want to end off on bad terms. I still have love for him (but also could see him deleting me further on either of these platforms)… I’d love to hear your thoughts. Basically, it’s just too painful for him/it bothers him/he doesn’t want to see photos of you or know what you’re doing/he wants to get the image of you out of his head. Recently I found out shockingly that my ex from 6 years ago unfriended me after barely any contact for almost 3 years. Sounds like he’s trying to get a reaction, but I don’t know the whole story and cannot give advice (not that you’re asking for it at all), in the comments. Keep coming back here to the blog and just know that you’re loved, supported, understood and never, ever alone. I’m just glad I managed to stay in NC. Since you still desire your ex’s attention, you are probably posti I just found your blog and this article and I am so so thankful and feel so understood. XOXO. My ex and I have been broken up for a month now. I for my part am feeling like I’m on a good way and your words just helped me understand the last struggle that this relationship has thrown in my way. Yep. Why did my ex-boyfriend unfriend me on facebook, but not my friends and family? I cant help but think with a day to go until valentines day (bleurgh) hes done it because hes with someone new. And that’s okay. Your email address will not be published. I also noticed that before he unfollowed me, each time that i posted a photo of myself (looking good etc. He's the one who wanted to take "a break." I know it’s not a game, but let’s be real it means you won. Keep staying on your white horse and coming back here to the blog. If your ex was a large part of your life, you will probably be bombarded by information about him or her on some of your social media sites whether you want it or not. I’m done with him.” Important: Whatever you say and do from now on will either make your ex feel respect and attraction for you, or turn her off the idea of being with you even more. A few days later I ask him to talk, not to get back in the relationship, but to end off on good terms. Then two days later he’s in a relationship and has removed me from both Instagram and Twitter. Dated a guy for over 3 years, we broke up and he started dating someone else within a week. He decided he can’t do we break up. He unfollowed me almost on everything ( I did the other stuff) and even my parents too. WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU’RE THE ONE WHO MESSED UP, HOW TO ATTRACT MEN: THE ONLY THING YOU NEED TO KNOW, THE COMPLETE GUIDE TO HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, DISENFRANCHISED GRIEF: HOW TO COPE IN UNPRECEDENTED TIMES, https://postmalesyndrome.com/social-media-and-relationships-5-red-flags/, EMOTIONAL EXHAUSTION: HOW TO TREAT MENTAL & EMOTIONAL FATIGUE, THE LAW OF ATTRACTION EXPLAINED: HOW TO MANIFEST YOUR DESTINY. It will help. Thank you! BTW – he was mean and disrespectful to me in our last texts so i wrote to him a text saying that i trued to end things on a good level but it doesnt seem to work out so thank you for all the good things and that i thing he is an amazing person and that i genuinly widh him all the best. As long as you stay around and accepting it will keep happening. I know it’s hard, but you’ve got the right mindset and are doing the right thing by not continuing to feed your fears. Thank you ! Dunno if he got pissed because I was living my life like he never existed anymore.or maybe because he thinks I blocked him in fb because i did deactivate my fb or yes the one you wrote the part that says that maybe he is trying to get a reaction from me because he is super manipulative. He didn't unfriend me for a while (during which time he started posting pictures of himself with other girls), but then he unfriended and blocked me completely and kicked me from a group in which he was the admin. Why did my ex-boyfriend unfriend me on facebook, but not my friends and family? We broke up 2 months ago we last spoke a month ago we was on good terms I said happy birthday she replied saying thank you. Thank you SO MUCH for taking the time to comment/share. 6 months have passed since we last spoke and I rarely check his fb just because in the first 3-4 months, it still hurt so much looking at his pictures or posts. Thank you for the advice and powerful words. What should i do next? This was hard. Then later I saw in his friend’s insta that him, his friend, the girl his friend is trying to get with and also the girl he went for a walk with were all going for a road trip. Fast forward 9 months and he recently unfriended me on facebook. In this special episode of Booktube, our community of close readers asks award-winning author Jason Reynolds about his new book, stamped: Racism, anti-racism, and you. Believe it. But he couldn’t spare me 5 minutes of his time that particular day. But just recently he began to message me again and disappeared on me AGAIN! I can’t deny I’m hurt, or that I’ve effectively put my dating life on hold whilst ‘seeing’ him but this seemingly small action has been the catalyst I needed to finally cut the strings for good. Hi Anon! I’m so happy to help ? When things don’t match even if they are not wrong it’s a good way to make a decision. Like I said, you could be doing great with moving on from a past … Since then he has taken down the pictures of us together and unfollowed me on snapchat and instagram. Essentially, she’s waiting for him to do something that will break this loop, re-attract her and get her back. You’re probably going out more and showcasing change and improvements, hoping your ex will take notice. (I know it was too fast) our relationship was very serious from the beginning but he showed he had jealousy and controlling issues, he could be the sweetest and cheesiest guy but other times he could be like very cold with me, he fell into a depression after we got engaged and after 4 months decided that he wasn’t happy with me because I didn’t show him I could be his wife, I made a really big effort because he told me previously the things that he needed from me but still it wasn’t enough for him and we just broke up, we also had communication issues but I still get along with all his friends and family, they text me from time to time especially his mum, he wants to keep in touch with me and they have been so sweet but everyone but him wants to stay in touch and text me and after 4 months of our broken engagement he decided to unfollow me, I mean I find it very ridiculous since we are mature people that was going to get married and I get along with his family, but he was nasty he also unfollowed my family and friends… I feel so confused and hurt by him, he clearly wants to erase me from his life when I wasn’t even the one to initiate the break up. I wanted to do more activities with him (dates, adventures) and I wanted better communication skills. We never talked since May. <3. (And I hadn't even made any move online to suggest how I felt or that anything had changed in my life.) I saw this and got sick to my stomach. Wish that I had the time to write more. All im doing is looking at a what a good time hes having and it hurts like hell. I am so sorry that you’ve had to go through all of this. Also during NC he tried adding me on Snapchat but I refused to add him. 90 % of the time were good memories and the other 10% were not. I freaked out, called him on his bullshit and the relationship ended with him telling me I was the “first woman he’d opened up to in 10 years, and this is what he gets” crap. I'm going through the exact situation. I don’t really care about staying connected on Facebook or Snapchat because we don’t talk but are on good terms. Maybe need to mark his e-mail as spam too. What I did, was unfriended him. Thanks for your love, for reading and for your understanding. I’m really kicking myself for that, wish I hadn’t done it even though it’s a very minor act. He did the blocking thing so my account would automatically unfollow his account. I’m irritated. I could not agree more. I’m not sure if I should take that as a sign that he still cares or doesn’t..? Hope this helps. But to my surprise today I checked my Instagram he wasn’t in my followers anymore and I am not following him anymore(He must have blocked me then unblocked me)because when I viewed his instagram his profile was private and I wasn’t following him anymore. Its ridiculous! I was too busy dating, working, working out, and planning my vacation to notice. I have stayed on the white horse and posted nothing about her or our “relationship”. It’s common and normal to wonder why your ex blocked you. I would also need more details. He or she shouldn’t but can do so nonetheless. My ex ended things with me 3 months ago over really petty issues. He even went as far as to ask a friend of his to un-follow me and block me when the two of them were spending NYE in LA. I have mixed feelings. What would you do if you saw something wrong happening right in front of your eyes, and your peers acted like it was okay? I didn’t hear from her for two years, and we live in the same city. I know he loved me, he was planning his future around me. Not even unfollowed! Just focus on you and your own personal growth and good things will soon happen! I am so happy it helped! Why my ex blocked me on facebook. I was hurt of course but there was nothing I could do about it. A couple months ago, I decided to unfriend my ex from Facebook. he was the one who ended it, although we had a brilliant relationship at the beginning. How did you and your ex enter this toxic state in your relationship? Is it like that Natasha? But if you’re like me and you live by strong moral values, then I would advise you to do what is right from a moral point of view. And, trust me, he knows the difference between the two. Tweet. Anyway, this guy tried getting my attention through fb with a post, u know those spiteful posts that u KNOW r supposed to be targeted towards u, AND messaged me through messenger just one week before he unfriended me. If you’re the one that didn’t unfollow first, this is a huge blow to your ego. My ex has been playing this game for three times now. When your ex blocks you on Instagram but doesn’t block you on Facebook, for example, this is what I call a partial block. Or perhaps he won't do anything and you will get hurt because of his lack of care. I think he is being spiteful, but I don't know. A week after the break up he slept with someone and so I decided to go on a date and he found out and got upset and we got into an argument and I was blocked on every social media. 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