Anonymous I knew someone who: had an affair, divorced his wife, married the other woman, after a few years divorced the other woman, courted and remarried the original wife. When you're the dumper, you carry responsibility for the other person's emotions. They say and do things out of self-defense to protect themselves from emotional pain. Exes come back for themselves, n ot you! It often depends on why you broke up, how much time has passed, whether you were madly in love, or if he has a feeling of relief now that the relationship is over. Guys that belongs to Dumper 2 will not contact u unless they feel lonely and ur the spare tire. My ex who dumped me, tried to come back around after almost a year, but at the time I was interested in someone new & wanted to see what he had to offer. Here are the 5 Stages of a break up for the dumper. 1. divorced (as dumpee) and ex came back around twice (and got super bitter when I stopped chasing and was truly happy and in a great place). 2. It's not so easy. There’s almost a 50% chance that he will. It is not uncommon to receive a strange out-of-the-blue call from the dumper a few weeks, months or even years down the line. I've never really dumped anyone. If he wanted to come back badly enough, regardless of pride or any other issues, I think he would?? Yeah agree with this - women dumpers have come back to me. ***** -Rain The only issue we had was his 24 … They come with their own agenda. My ex broke up with me almost 1 month ago . 10 month relationship (I was dumper) and with the exception of a few days of begging me she went NC and I have not heard a peep from her in 6 months almost (and I am not affected at all by that). Unfortunately they act this way only towards the dumpee. The dumpers temporarily become unrecognizable to the dumpees as they seem as if they have transformed into different people. They won't dump you to begin with. Our relationship was as perfect as perfect could get for over a year. Yes those who dump you do try and come back the time frame is different for everyone but here is my story. Subject: Dumpers, what made you come back/reconcile after a long period of time? As I mentioned previously, our best chance for the dumper to come back comes after a significant amount of time, when they realize fully what life is like without us. Mine clearly hasnt because he has not come back. If I wasn't in such a bad situation (long story), I never would have asked her to try again (falsely thinking we were both REALLY stressed and just havin a low point in our lives). But he has to make his choice freely. I think usually if they come back it is because they truly love that person & theyve spent some time away from them only to realize they actually do want that person in their life. Read it carefully and tell me which dumper is he and then u got the answer. There’s a good chance he’ll miss you over time. 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