Do you allow people to offend you? However, being 'offensive' is always a choice, regardless of whether or not it … But at least I owned up to it! Typically it runs on the first Sunday of the month, but this month the first Sunday was also the first day of the month and I didn't get it to them in time to run so it ran on the 2nd Sunday, today, October 8. The overwhelming response was, yes, it is a choice. However, it ultimately is impossible for another person to. Sometimes your words and actions will offend people. ~ David A. Bednar There are choices in life. My sensibility can be 'offended' without ever effecting my feelings. Being OFFENDED is a choice you make. Blow your emotional top or not. Most people struggle with this concept. On May 07, 2016. It's not a condition inflicted or imposed … 'Offended' is a poor choice of a word. Have you ever reported someone for offenses here? When another one of my sisters arrived, with one daughter and son, I asked where her other daughter was. If you choose not to be offended you take control of your emotions. It isn’t up to other people to stop you from being offended. “To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else.” (David A. Bednar). Theyre called #Progressives. That's not a logical conclusion. Jun 9, 2015 - Quozio turns meaningful words into beautiful images in seconds. Oct 2, 2015 - To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone... - David A. Bednar quotes at AZquotes.com That is not a choice but a condition. Yes 2. Live life with the wisdom that nobody can make you do anything and that you alone can control how you react to your surroundings and circumstances. Davidene Bender-Main, MNLP, MBCT, CBT, HT, LC. Member 705 posts Posted 06 March 2018 - 07:10 AM (Edited by soman, 06 March 2018 - 07:12 AM.) Your choice. PSA, y’all: Being offended is a choice — but, contrary to what some people seem to believe, that doesn’t mean we can say whatever mean thing we want, then accuse other people of being too sensitive. It is difficult to hear when someone says it back to me in the middle of an emotional meltdown of my own. Reactions are something you can work to control. It's not that you planned to – some people choose to perceive things with malice. To Be Offended is a Choice We went to my sister's surprise 50th wedding celebration, given by some of their grandchildren. Everyone today seems to be offended by something or by someone…it is the latest victim-mentality of the 20-teens, or whatever we’re supposed to call this decade of the 21st Century. Elder David A. Bednar gave a fabulous talk in October 2006 called “And Nothing Shall Offend Them.”In it, he explains that we have free agency and thus, no one can force us to be offended. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else. When I hear people talk about how people should not be easily offended because of what Church members say or do, I think there's another part missing. 58. Then share 'em on Facebook, Pinterest, email and more! It's your choice to be offended Being offended is a choice you make. If being offended is a choice, then its best to leave the ignorant offenders alone. by KEELA | May 10, 2018 | Leadership | 3 comments. JAMES 1:19 If one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else. Member 3,725 posts Posted 06 March 2018 - 07:08 AM. Being Offended Is a Choice We Make-----"Certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and mean spirited. offend you or to offend me. Be offended, or not. It’s easy to forget that you have the power to choose. Reposted from another friend: It is a fact of life in our country today that there are people who live to be offended. … The time to stop being offended is now.” The other I asked you if being offended was a choice. More on that another time. David A. Bednar. Marcia Clark. After all they’re just words, not stones they’re throwing. Superstar. HAPPY IS THE MAN WHO IS NOT EASILY OFFENDED. And for clarity, I am talking about open conversation where we all have a choice. Situations where there is a clear power imbalance such as workplaces or domestic violence are another matter entirely. Being 'offended' is not always a choice. Started by Kami , ... #21 neojasnee neojasnee. Response 1 of 54: Not totally wrong. It's not a condition inflicted or imposed upon you by someone or something else. I am deeply offended. Guilty I know, I know....a little hypocritical. We’re talking about something that would disturb your sensibilities, your sense of what is right. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else." Is Being Offended a Choice? It’s easy to dismiss someone who feels offended as being “too sensitive” or “misunderstanding.” People commonly say, “It’s your choice to be offended”—as if that absolves the offender’s actions and puts the blame directly on the hurt individual. Truthfully, being offended is a choice we make. We can’t stop the inconsiderate, rude, offensive acts of others. No matter what anyone says you have a choice; to be offended or not be offended. Apr 26, 2018 - “Believing that another person offended us is false. to take offense. Just so you’ll know where I stand 1. I have been a proponent of saying this to myself and to others for many years. Is it a choice? We are not talking here about someone stabbing your or stealing your wife. It's your choice to be offended Being offended is a choice you make. Being stupid is a choice too. Senior Idol. The Choice to be Offended. Getting Offended Is A Choice- Know Your Inner Strength. Referring to 2 Nephi 2:13-14, Elder Bednar said: "To believe that someone or something can make us feel offended, angry, hurt or bitter diminishes our moral agency and transforms us into objects to be acted upon." By Oliver JR Cooper . I don’t think it should serve as an excuse to be assholes to each other ` Offended: Is Being Offended A Choice? Leave a Comment on To Be Offended Is A Choice #attitude , #choices , #David A. Bednar , #LDS , #Offended , #Offense , #Quotes To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else. Getting offended is a choice, and outrage is the fire of our own offence that we feed into an inferno. 59. Independent free thinker doesn't back down to the politically correct nonsense of the modern age. ABC= Angry British Conservative. But it was also the choice of the girls to do and say the things they did, knowing full well how it would hurt my sister. Correct them if you feel like you have the time and energy, but in all other cases, there should be no reason for you to feel offended. To be offended is a choice you make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon you by someone or something else. Jul 23, 2012 - News and information about the LDS Church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) from the Deseret News. Almost offensive to me. Offense is not injury. (Alma 61) Elder David A. Bednar talks about making the choice not to be offended. Being Offended is a Choice For over a year now I've been writing a monthly article for the Town Talk's Guest Pastor column. The most important step to keeping a level head in the face of serious offense is to remember that just because something offends you doesn’t mean that it hurts you in any way. Maria’s Midweek Mindfulness Read More. Someone does or says something that is offensive. It doesn't follow. Once every Monday talking about a certain topic globally or locally. Choose Wisely Highlight: Elder Quentin L. Cook's address at the October 2014 General Conference. Either you will be more offended by his words, or a little light-bulb will go off in your mind and you will instantly think of how useless being offended is.And since being offended easily is a choice, YOU are the one who holds the power to stop being offended. And from that you conclude that being offended is a choice. OFFENDED IS A CHOICE. things do occur in our interactions with other people that would allow us. Choose not to let others dictate your emotions—purposely or otherwise. Back to top #22 soman soman. 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